ASK THESE QUESTIONS TO DETERMINE IF A SITUATION IS ACTUALLY JUST SOMEONE DRAWING YOU INTO A DRAMA TRIANGLE

Has this person attempted to reconcile according to Matthew 18?

Is this issue really mine to handle, or am I being drawn in unnecessarily?

Am I being asked to take on a role that I should not, such as rescuing someone or taking sides?

Am I being manipulated to feel responsible for someone else's emotions or actions?

Is the conversation centered on healthy communication and mutual respect, or is it filled with blame, judgment, and condemnation?

Am I being encouraged to take action that is in line with biblical principles or out of alignment with them?

Am I seeking peace and unity, or is my involvement in this situation promoting division or strife?

Have I prayed about this situation and sought God's wisdom?

Is this about a leader or elder?

"Do not entertain an accusation against an elder unless it is brought by two or three witnesses." (1 Timothy 5:19, NIV)

Is this a pattern for this person?

Are they bringing this to you, or have they gone to the person directly first?

Are they seeking resolution, or are they simply venting?

Are they involving others to try to rally support?

How does the person respond to conflict?

Is this a conflict of personal opinion, or is there a clear sin issue?

Are they willing to forgive, or are they holding onto resentment?

Are they committed to the unity of the church, or is this conflict dividing relationships?